It’s February and love is in the air, as the saying goes, but for pole dancers, love is quite literally in the air! You love flying high, flowing low, spinning freely, and dancing as often as possible, but do you know your Pole Dance Love Language?
We all express and receive love differently. Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages can help us understand our own love needs. We all need Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch, but some expressions are more powerful than others and vary from person to person.
Take my (totally unserious and just for fun) quiz to find out what your Pole Dance Love Language is!
Pole Dance Love Language Quiz
Question 1: It really means a lot when my pole instructors:
A. Offer specific and encouraging feedback on something I’m working on.
B. Share grip aid or knee pads with me when I’ve forgotten mine.
C. Teach a trick or move that I’ve previously requested.
D. Start and end class on time so I don’t have to watch the clock.
E. Spot me when I’m trying something new and I’m a little bit unsure.
Question 2: I love when a classmate:
A. Says “You got this!” when I'm attempting a new trick.
B. Offers to trade poles with me so I can use my favorite one.
C. Shares the link to their pole outfit after I’ve said I liked it.
D. Spends time chatting and socializing with me before or after class.
E. High fives me when I’ve nailed something new.
Question 3: When I walk into the pole studio, I really appreciate:
A. Hearing students and instructors excitedly welcome me by name.
B. Having a clean towel and a full spray bottle to use.
C. Grabbing a hair elastic from the bathroom because I forgot one.
D. Knowing I have a great workout ahead of me.
E. Someone handing me a block, strap, or mat to use in class.
Question 4: When I feel like skipping pole class, I don’t because:
A. My pole bestie texts “I’m excited to see you in class!”
B. The studio will be warm and cozy, even though its cold out.
C. I have a new pole outfit to wear.
D. It's my only time to do something for myself.
E. It’s been too long since I’ve touched a pole.
Question 5: When my studio has a showcase, I’m most likely to be:
A. In the audience screaming YASSSSS for everyone.
B. Volunteering to help clean the poles between performances.
C. Bringing flowers for the owner and instructors.
D. Watching each and every performance and recording each one.
E. Hugging each performer after they come off stage.
Question 6: When I unlock a new pole trick, I’m most excited to:
A. Post a pic or video on IG.
B. Teach it to my pole students or friends.
C. Include it when I treat myself to a pole photoshoot.
D. Do it again and again on both sides.
E. Sit next to my pole bestie and watch my video together.
Question 7: My biggest pole class pet peeve is:
A. Negative self talk or gossip.
B. When it’s canceled last minute.
C. Not having a crash mat or other support equipment available.
D. Students who yap and distract the class.
E. Having to share a pole with someone else.
Question 8: The pole workshop or event I’d most likely attend is:
A. Finding Your Freestyle
B. Instructor Training
C. Clothing Swap
D. Open Studio Pole Jam
E. Lapdance Workshop
Question 9: The best part of doing a pole competition is:
A. Reading the feedback from the judges.
B. Working with instructors and friends to create a routine.
C. The photo and video package hitting my inbox.
D. The few moments I get to shine onstage.
E. Taking group photos with friends and other competitors afterward.
Question 10: The pole hashtag I’m most likely to follow is:
A. #poleinspiration
B. #poletutorial
C. #polegiveaway
D. #poleretreat
E. #pddoubles
Calculate Your Score to Find Your Pole Dance Love Language
Mostly As: Words of Affirmation. Encouragement and specific praise, whether spoken or written, fuel your pole fire.
Mostly Bs: Acts of Service. You feel loved when something is taken care of for you or you’re on the receiving end of pole help or practical support.
Mostly Cs: Receiving Gifts. Tangible tokens of affection or even sharing of information makes your inner pole dancer feel loved.
Mostly Ds: Quality Time. Shared experiences and undivided attention are the way to your pole dancer heart.
Mostly Es: Physical Touch. You're a touchy-feely type. Physical connection, hands on spotting, and even small brushes fill your pole soul.
Hopefully, you found this playful twist on Chapman's Five Love Languages fun! Your Pole Dance Love Language might be a unique blend of these or something entirely different. The most important thing is to enjoy your pole journey and find what makes you feel most fulfilled. Happy Valentine's Day!